Do you have a Bar or Bat Mitzvah coming up and are completely unsure of what to write in the card? Like many Millennials, Gen-Xers and Boomers, I have virtually no idea how or what to say to kids these days. Is “Lit” still cool? ✡️ ✡️ ✡️

Well, the truth is, at the end of the day adolescents today are probably more or less the same as they were when we were growing up and a Bar or Bat Mitzvah continues to be a milestone for them and they simply want to be told what all of us want to be told: “You did great!”

A Bar or Bat Mitzvah holds a significant amount of cultural significance in that it marks a boy or girl’s entrance into the Jewish community as a responsible and accountable member. Yes, childhood is far from over for them, but the occasion calls for the Bar or Bat Mitzvah to take ownership of their actions, consideration for others and a deeper look at life in general … and of course, there’s the party! (And many, many gifts)

So, when you sit down to sign that check and write that card, and find yourself stumped at what to say, try the following: 

1. Mazel Tov on becoming a Bar/Bat Mitzvah! You are now an adult in the eyes of the Jewish community. May you continue to grow in your faith and be proud of your accomplishments.

2. Wishing you all the best on this special day. May you always have a strong connection to your heritage and community.

3.Congratulations on completing your Bar Mitzvah! May this new chapter in your life bring you many opportunities to learn and grow.

4. Mazel Tov on becoming a Bar Mitzvah! We are so proud of you and all you have achieved. Wishing you a lifetime of success and happiness

5. We're going to Hava Nagila so hard tonight! Mazel Tov on your big day! (Make it a little more young and fun)

6. You are a Bimah Light in our lives (Okay, well, that one’s ours.)

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